How clear are our choices?

Contemplating a program I watched on TV about children born different.

All the children apart from one boy had extensive surgery from a very young age. The one boy’s parents had also been advised that he too needed surgery, but had opted out. Instead they had focused on giving him an active childhood. All the children in the program were now approaching their teens and the film team were there to see how they’ve all got along in life. The children who had had surgery either needed more due to pain, or their standard of life had not at all been improved by the surgery. The boy who’s parents had opted out was breaking all the records in swimming and heading towards the paralympics with almost nonchalance…